For all the "411" you need on your inter-personal relationships,or anything else that's happening in your life;send your questions to me in a message with "Ask Danny G." in the title line,or here on the forum. I send you a personal response & if I get enough interesting messages;I'll pick out the best ones and publish them here on the Forum, once a week or so. Of course,I won't use your real names or screen names to protect the guilty or innocent,depending on your perspective. Should be a lot more interesting than "Dear Abby"....
Peace,
Danny G.

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"If You Were Supposed to Watch Your Mouth All the time;I Doubt Your Eyes Would Be Above It"

Thought I'd share my first response to "Ask Danny G"....

Hello I am seeing this guy and have been for around 6 months. I care about him a lot and I feel he cares about me, but I don't know. We don't talk about relationships or feelings he says no mushy stuff... but he does things that make me feel that he has feelings as well; like rubs my hair I lay on him and he'll rub my back and so on but as I said there is no I love you's from us. I want to tell him but I'm afraid to!!!!There is a big age difference,about 13 years. What do you think he may feel?? Is this worth hanging on for or what???
Signed,
Unsure

Dear Unsure,
Thanks for your question. First off,you need to decide what you need from a relationship to make you happy. You are to young to "just settle" for anything less. If you think this thing can work and it's what you want,then whether he likes it or not,he's going to have to sit down and talk to you about it and where the "relationship" is going from here. If he's not willing to have a serious discussion with you about his real feelings and what he sees as the future for you and him,I feel you may just "spinning your wheels". It may be time to move on as far as a serious relationship goes and try to just remain friends with him,if possible. Just remember the 3 things that it takes to make a good loving relationship : Openness between both parties(No Secrets!), Honesty,for lies will break you up every time, and trust,there is no room for jealousy:If you don't have trust,then you have nothing. I hope this helps you out & I wish you and your "fellow" the Best of Luck"
Danny G.

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"If You Were Supposed to Watch Your Mouth All the time;I Doubt Your Eyes Would Be Above It"

Here's a New Question to "Ask Danny G.".....If ya'll have any comment or advice to add....Feel free to do so,
Peace,Danny G.

Dear Danny G,

I like this girl alot as a matter of fact she is all I think about but, she has a boyfriend but he is a loser and nobody likes him. I told her I like her but, she says she just wants to be good friends but I have never felt this way about a girl before most girls I think are just hot and want to get in their pants but, this girl I really care about.

My question is how do I get her to kick her loser boyfriend to the curb and be more than just friends with me.
Thanks,
Desperate for Advice


Dear Desparate for Advice,
This is always a tough situation. The "I just want to be friends" line,can often be the "kiss of death"to a romantic relationship. What you need to find out,is if the loser boyfriend was out of the picture....Would you actually have a chance with her???? And sadly the only way to find that out,is to meet and talk with her and "lay your cards on the table" about how you feel about her. I know this is scary,but at least then you'll find out if you really have a chance with this girl. You have to be willing to face the possibility of rejection in order to find true love. If your lucky enough that this girl would want to be with you; if the current boyfriend were out of the way....That's wonderful. But if it turns out that she really just wants to be friends;you just have to accept that fact,be glad you have her as a friend,suck it up and move on. You are young and you WILL have this feeling about someone else;if things don't work out with her. The main thing is to take action and go ahead and find out where you stand. Then you can move on from there.
Best of Luck to You,
Danny G.

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"If You Were Supposed to Watch Your Mouth All the time;I Doubt Your Eyes Would Be Above It"